Dear readers, it’s probably no secret to you that even the simplest clitoral orgasm many women fake? Such a spectacle, with moaning, wriggling and scratching the back of the beloved, arrange a third of women around the globe. Millions, Karl, millions! For them, sex becomes an act of copulation and respect for the man – a marital duty. Not pleasure and enjoyment, but a tedious duty!
Why a woman doesn’t have an orgasm is a multifaceted and complicated question. And here she feigns in most cases in order not to offend her partner and not to seem in his eyes frigid, damaged and unfeeling. Men are not to blame for the fact that some girls do not cum, but they have their share of responsibility. So many partners, inexperienced and inept, think that a woman’s orgasm is the natural, logical conclusion to the intercourse. They are not aware that they have this option turned on automatically in response to arousal, while the partner, unfortunately, has it differently.
In order to get an orgasm during sex, a girl will have to put a lot of effort herself, and then teach her man how to bring her to climax. Today we are going to set up the sexual sphere and solve your intimate problems, so that finally all virgins will be satisfied in bed with their chosen one, and orgasms will overtake them several times per intercourse.
How to get a female orgasm during sex, overcoming barriers
As has already been said, the female orgasm is a delicate matter. Men, and women themselves, sometimes do not give it the importance it deserves, because in the absence of it the ability to conceive is not lost. Anorgasmic acts of love can be quite fruitful. And that’s how ladies deprive themselves of pleasure, ruin their relationship with their beloved, and even ruin successful, successful marriages.
The main problem why a girl never has an orgasm is her inability to relax and listen to her body’s signals. If you can overcome these two main barriers, it will be easier to reach the peak of pleasure!
How to Learn to Have an Orgasm
Girls do not know their bodies well, have a lot of complexes about their appearance and sexuality, do not know how to relax and give yourself up to the process completely. How to fight this? An orgasm is a reaction to prolonged sexual stimulation that contributes to the accumulation of pleasant sensations and maximum arousal. With psychological barriers and self-loathing, a girl will not be able to feel stimulation, therefore, excitement in the right measure will not be obtained. Is it possible to have an orgasm in this state? No!
Acceptance of yourself and your sexuality
Do not focus on the shortcomings of appearance and figure (often taken from the ceiling). What she considers a defect (round butt, chubby cheeks, breasts), men in most cases take for a piquant feature of the partner, which in bed strongly excites. Less live on other people’s social media pages, where everything is beautiful and glamorous. It’s cheating and photoshopped. All instagrams look worse in real life than regular women.
If a man has sex with you, and not for the first time, it means he likes everything about you. In addition to the figure and face dozens of other factors affect the process of arousal and the emergence of an erection. Throw out of your head all the prejudices. Love yourself and feel desirable. All the negativity is only in our own thoughts.
Looking for erogenous points
Simply put, we learn to identify points on the body with a quick response through masturbation. Every woman has them located very individually, so it’s hard for men to draw a general line for all ladies.
In a pleasant environment, caress your breasts and nipples, stroke your labia, try fingering your clitoris. Remember what makes you feel a pull in your lower abdomen when a man touches your body. The following areas are responsive to gentle stimulation: the neck, the entire décolletage area, the interscapular space, the curve of the lower back, the inner surface of the thighs, the wrists.
Experiment with adult toys to awaken your sensuality. Take a vibrator and pass it over your nipples, around the labia, on the lips themselves, lightly touch the clitoris. You can use a dildo – at your discretion. Gently caress the entrance to the vagina with a little going inside. If you like this kind of play with your own body, insert the artificial dildo to the full depth and move it in a rhythm that is comfortable for you. With one hand continue to caress your clitoris, nipples, anus, etc.
Learning to respond to arousal correctly
If during masturbation you managed to quickly get an orgasm or at least get very aroused, try to properly accept these reactions. Don’t be embarrassed, don’t clench, and just enjoy the process.
When a girl gets an orgasm from masturbation, she should remember the way to achieve it. Write down in your memory all the stimuli to which the body reacted, thoughts that contributed to increasing desire, some fantasies.
Additional stimuli
When you’ve felt your erogenous points and traced the thoughts that motivated you to a vivid orgasm, try to find photos, pictures or porn videos that correspond to your sexual fantasies. Visual stimuli can play a crucial role in how to experience an orgasm. Don’t hesitate when having sex with a man to ask to reproduce the situation with fondling, watching videos, etc.
Switching to a man
To have an orgasm in bed with a man, you need another skill. The fact is that girls who cum from masturbation sometimes can’t orgasm with a real partner. They just don’t know how to switch! How to do it?
During masturbation, when the peak of pleasure is close, try to include in your fantasies a specific man with whom you regularly sleep. Let him be the protagonist in your imagination. Train yourself to think about him! In the beginning do it at the moment of orgasm, then, as you get used to it, during independent foreplay and throughout the whole process. If you can include your partner in your thoughts, then you can cum with him during actual intercourse, too.
Getting rid of focus
Playing with a vibrator and other intimate products will be useful to you not only for masturbation. Many girls can’t have an orgasm because of their focus on the end result. They do not relax, do not give their whole body to the mutual caresses, because there is a pulsating thought “cum-cum-cum” sitting in their head.
How to get an orgasm quickly? Less thinking about it. And less concentration on the thought of your partner’s actions. Sex toys will help dilute the sensations, turn off the inner monologue, and give the opportunity to listen to your instincts.
Do not chase the ideal
In the heads of many women there is a certain mythical ideal of how to get an orgasm, how it should be achieved. Where this comes from, it is not clear. Movies, talk shows, silly articles by useless copywriters, or whatever, but the bottom line is the same: these ladies are after the perfect orgasm.
Remember, there are no perfect orgasms! One comes from caressing nipples, the second loves cunny, the third likes to claw at the buttocks of men and tense the lower abdominal muscles, others shudder in erotic convulsions from contemplation of how your favorite jerk. There is no single scheme or plan for getting a vaginal or clitoral orgasm!
Don’t be afraid to offend your partner
Don’t be afraid to openly tell your man that you don’t reach orgasm with him. If before he appeared in your bed, the problem with this was not, then it’s in the techniques that do not depend only on the woman. No need to gratify the male ego, fear for his hurt feelings – why such a sacrifice? First and foremost, learn to love yourself and respect your desires. Sex without pleasure is akin to violence.
You can always tactfully dissect the points that prevent specifically in your case to achieve orgasm. Perhaps he should do cunny in a different way, or caress the clitoris with his hands in a different rhythm. Adequate men are able to understand the woman’s requests and will even be grateful for your sincerity. You enrich his intimate knowledge of female physiology, which he will successfully apply to others, if something does not work out with you.
Never will a woman have a clitoral orgasm if vaginal penetration is not supported by stimulation of the clitoris and other perineal areas. The best positions for this will be those where your pubis or your partner’s body is tightly attached to these erogenous areas.
Pay attention to a slightly modernized classic pose, in which the girl’s legs are thrown over the man’s shoulders. The clitoris is open for stimulation. Try to lie on your partner in such a way that your pubis touches it when you move.
Do you want a woman on top? Then the classic “Assault” or sit in a chair. The plus side of chair sex is that the girl places her legs the way she feels comfortable. Plus, it’s a very secure support. Just press her pelvis as close to you as possible. In this position let her move not up and down, landing on your dick, but in a circle or back and forth, so that her clit rubs against your crotch.
Do not take more difficult positions right away. Practice these. If you practice variations in which there is no stimulation directly to the partner’s pubis, use your hands or special sex toys. You can recommend that the girl herself rubs the clitoris during sex, but many do not experience the pleasure that is available from the caresses of a man.
Training your vaginal muscles
If your muscles are stretched after childbirth and your penis girth is not as strong, you will have to do Kegel exercises. The so-called vumbilding helps you regain all the skills in a short time. For starters, try to squeeze your vaginal muscles during vaginal sex as the penis enters and exits. First, you will feel good, and second, the man will feel even better than you do.
Unhealthy habits
Claiming that smoking is directly related to orgasm is silly. Many people smoke and cum regularly with different partners. There is an opinion that alcohol greatly affects the ability of a girl to have an orgasm. It is not quite correct to assert this on general grounds, but there are individual cases. If a woman drank a decent dose of alcohol, sensitivity is blunted throughout the body. All alcohol acts as an anesthetic. If there are already problems with pleasure, it will only make things worse.
Proper breathing
It is important to provide the body with a sufficient rush of oxygen, thanks to which the muscle contractions will go much brighter and more intense. There is nothing special to do: just relax and breathe deeply evenly.
Trust
Talk to a man about sexual feelings is difficult, but necessary. And not only after the act of love, but also in the process. Guide his actions, voice your desires – be open. This will remove the burden of dissatisfaction. Of course, it is necessary to establish domestic relations. Very often there are situations where the wife ceases to receive an orgasm from intimacy with her husband for the reason that they are constantly fighting, which accumulated resentment. It is easier for a man to put them off at the moment of intimacy, the woman does not. She lives with her emotions, internal dialogues that go on continuously, so resentment prevents her from relaxing.
And again we get a vicious circle: we keep silent about our desires in bed and get offended for dissatisfaction, we keep silent and hide our dissatisfaction with everyday life and get a lot of negativity accumulated from such trifles that are sometimes not worth a damn. And the wall of incomprehension has grown in all areas! Learn to conduct a dialogue with your partner in simple and accessible language. Not with an ultimative tone, but with compromise proposals.
How to get an orgasm, help from a man
Dear men, a woman’s orgasm depends on you at some points. We just wrote about trust and the ability to find a compromise in a respectful dialogue. We will not repeat it. Just take note that not only a woman has to yield and understand you for the reason that she is a woman. Slavery was abolished long ago, the central points of reference in a couple’s relationship shifted long ago. We have equal rights between people in everything.
If you want to rest after work, the woman has the same right to do so. She doesn’t have to plow the second shift at all. You want borscht and meatballs? Do it all together. Or bring in more money so the woman can work less. A hunted horse in the female form wants to sleep in the evening, what orgasms? And you suffer from it – lack of sex, rejection after rejection… Compromise, comrades, compromise!
Proper caresses
Learn to find bliss zones with each new partner. Do not act with all the girls according to one scheme. Although no man has ever hurt the ability to do quality cunnilingus as foreplay! In addition to increase to a maximum sexual arousal can stimulate not only the clitoris, but also other sensual areas on the body. For example, some of the fair sex are breasts and neck, others – earlobes and wrists.
G-spot stimulation and squirting orgasm
But there is a secret place in the female body, when acting on which the vaginal orgasm is guaranteed in almost 99% of cases – the G-spot. Another type of orgasm that you can learn to experience when stimulating this erogenous zone is called a squirting orgasm. It is possible only in some ladies, and represents a copious ejaculation of fluid from the urethra.
You can achieve squirt, which is what they call it, by stimulating the G-spot both with your hands and your penis, where the success and chances of a squirting orgasm largely predetermines the choice of position. The search for the most suitable position sometimes takes a long time. Couples should experiment and fantasize without stopping there. Look for your rhythm: slow and smooth, or rough and fast are all individual moments that are usually discussed as a couple.
Appropriate setting.
For a girl to have an orgasm, she needs the right environment. Dear men, keep this in mind! If she is scared at the slightest rustle during sex, afraid that someone will enter the room (children, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, etc.), it is foolish to count on a vivid orgasm in a movie theater or park. Such a woman will only cum in an intimate atmosphere where only she and her man are present. A woman who gets aroused by sharp swings of emotion, light affairs and sex in an unusual environment, on the contrary, will have an orgasm in more vivid non-standard conditions.
Sincere Feelings
Unfortunately, some women don’t know how to relax and have orgasms with men who only sleep with them for their health. Girls want feelings, emotions, at least their good half. If you’ve fallen for just such a one, but you don’t have love for her, which she knows, sex will be bland. Do not waste your and her time – she did not see orgasms, and you do not get to put another checkmark in the diary of victories. Bummer. Look for one that separates sex and feelings into two different components.
So, we’ve discussed how to get an orgasm, and what both partners need to do to do it. If all attempts are unsuccessful, you should definitely have a frank conversation. Only trust in the couple and discussion of all the intimate moments will help to do the “work on the mistakes”. Any girl can learn to have an orgasm, the main thing – to be able to listen to yourself and not embarrassed to talk about it with your partner.
Dear men and women, have you ever met a girl who didn’t have an orgasm? What did you do to solve the problem? Do you get an orgasm from every intercourse? In what ways? Write, comment and reveal your secrets!
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Dear readers, it’s probably no secret to you that even the simplest clitoral orgasm many women fake? Such a spectacle, with moaning, wriggling and scratching the back of the beloved, arrange a third of women around the globe. Millions, Karl, millions! For them, sex becomes an act of copulation and respect for the man – a marital duty. Not pleasure and enjoyment, but a tedious duty!
Why a woman doesn’t have an orgasm is a multifaceted and complicated question. And here she feigns in most cases in order not to offend her partner and not to seem in his eyes frigid, damaged and unfeeling. Men are not to blame for the fact that some girls do not cum, but they have their share of responsibility. So many partners, inexperienced and inept, think that a woman’s orgasm is the natural, logical conclusion to the intercourse. They are not aware that they have this option turned on automatically in response to arousal, while the partner, unfortunately, has it differently.
In order to get an orgasm during sex, a girl will have to put a lot of effort herself, and then teach her man how to bring her to climax. Today we are going to set up the sexual sphere and solve your intimate problems, so that finally all virgins will be satisfied in bed with their chosen one, and orgasms will overtake them several times per intercourse.
How to get a female orgasm during sex, overcoming barriers
As has already been said, the female orgasm is a delicate matter. Men, and women themselves, sometimes do not give it the importance it deserves, because in the absence of it the ability to conceive is not lost. Anorgasmic acts of love can be quite fruitful. And that’s how ladies deprive themselves of pleasure, ruin their relationship with their beloved, and even ruin successful, successful marriages.
How to Learn to Have an Orgasm
Girls do not know their bodies well, have a lot of complexes about their appearance and sexuality, do not know how to relax and give yourself up to the process completely. How to fight this? An orgasm is a reaction to prolonged sexual stimulation that contributes to the accumulation of pleasant sensations and maximum arousal. With psychological barriers and self-loathing, a girl will not be able to feel stimulation, therefore, excitement in the right measure will not be obtained. Is it possible to have an orgasm in this state? No!
Acceptance of yourself and your sexuality
Do not focus on the shortcomings of appearance and figure (often taken from the ceiling). What she considers a defect (round butt, chubby cheeks, breasts), men in most cases take for a piquant feature of the partner, which in bed strongly excites. Less live on other people’s social media pages, where everything is beautiful and glamorous. It’s cheating and photoshopped. All instagrams look worse in real life than regular women.
Looking for erogenous points
Simply put, we learn to identify points on the body with a quick response through masturbation. Every woman has them located very individually, so it’s hard for men to draw a general line for all ladies.
In a pleasant environment, caress your breasts and nipples, stroke your labia, try fingering your clitoris. Remember what makes you feel a pull in your lower abdomen when a man touches your body. The following areas are responsive to gentle stimulation: the neck, the entire décolletage area, the interscapular space, the curve of the lower back, the inner surface of the thighs, the wrists.
Learning to respond to arousal correctly
If during masturbation you managed to quickly get an orgasm or at least get very aroused, try to properly accept these reactions. Don’t be embarrassed, don’t clench, and just enjoy the process.
Additional stimuli
When you’ve felt your erogenous points and traced the thoughts that motivated you to a vivid orgasm, try to find photos, pictures or porn videos that correspond to your sexual fantasies. Visual stimuli can play a crucial role in how to experience an orgasm. Don’t hesitate when having sex with a man to ask to reproduce the situation with fondling, watching videos, etc.
Switching to a man
To have an orgasm in bed with a man, you need another skill. The fact is that girls who cum from masturbation sometimes can’t orgasm with a real partner. They just don’t know how to switch! How to do it?
During masturbation, when the peak of pleasure is close, try to include in your fantasies a specific man with whom you regularly sleep. Let him be the protagonist in your imagination. Train yourself to think about him! In the beginning do it at the moment of orgasm, then, as you get used to it, during independent foreplay and throughout the whole process. If you can include your partner in your thoughts, then you can cum with him during actual intercourse, too.
Getting rid of focus
Playing with a vibrator and other intimate products will be useful to you not only for masturbation. Many girls can’t have an orgasm because of their focus on the end result. They do not relax, do not give their whole body to the mutual caresses, because there is a pulsating thought “cum-cum-cum” sitting in their head.
How to get an orgasm quickly? Less thinking about it. And less concentration on the thought of your partner’s actions. Sex toys will help dilute the sensations, turn off the inner monologue, and give the opportunity to listen to your instincts.
Do not chase the ideal
In the heads of many women there is a certain mythical ideal of how to get an orgasm, how it should be achieved. Where this comes from, it is not clear. Movies, talk shows, silly articles by useless copywriters, or whatever, but the bottom line is the same: these ladies are after the perfect orgasm.
Don’t be afraid to offend your partner
Don’t be afraid to openly tell your man that you don’t reach orgasm with him. If before he appeared in your bed, the problem with this was not, then it’s in the techniques that do not depend only on the woman. No need to gratify the male ego, fear for his hurt feelings – why such a sacrifice? First and foremost, learn to love yourself and respect your desires. Sex without pleasure is akin to violence.
You can always tactfully dissect the points that prevent specifically in your case to achieve orgasm. Perhaps he should do cunny in a different way, or caress the clitoris with his hands in a different rhythm. Adequate men are able to understand the woman’s requests and will even be grateful for your sincerity. You enrich his intimate knowledge of female physiology, which he will successfully apply to others, if something does not work out with you.
Pay attention to a slightly modernized classic pose, in which the girl’s legs are thrown over the man’s shoulders. The clitoris is open for stimulation. Try to lie on your partner in such a way that your pubis touches it when you move.
Do you want a woman on top? Then the classic “Assault” or sit in a chair. The plus side of chair sex is that the girl places her legs the way she feels comfortable. Plus, it’s a very secure support. Just press her pelvis as close to you as possible. In this position let her move not up and down, landing on your dick, but in a circle or back and forth, so that her clit rubs against your crotch.
Do not take more difficult positions right away. Practice these. If you practice variations in which there is no stimulation directly to the partner’s pubis, use your hands or special sex toys. You can recommend that the girl herself rubs the clitoris during sex, but many do not experience the pleasure that is available from the caresses of a man.
Training your vaginal muscles
If your muscles are stretched after childbirth and your penis girth is not as strong, you will have to do Kegel exercises. The so-called vumbilding helps you regain all the skills in a short time. For starters, try to squeeze your vaginal muscles during vaginal sex as the penis enters and exits. First, you will feel good, and second, the man will feel even better than you do.
Unhealthy habits
Claiming that smoking is directly related to orgasm is silly. Many people smoke and cum regularly with different partners. There is an opinion that alcohol greatly affects the ability of a girl to have an orgasm. It is not quite correct to assert this on general grounds, but there are individual cases. If a woman drank a decent dose of alcohol, sensitivity is blunted throughout the body. All alcohol acts as an anesthetic. If there are already problems with pleasure, it will only make things worse.
Proper breathing
It is important to provide the body with a sufficient rush of oxygen, thanks to which the muscle contractions will go much brighter and more intense. There is nothing special to do: just relax and breathe deeply evenly.
Trust
Talk to a man about sexual feelings is difficult, but necessary. And not only after the act of love, but also in the process. Guide his actions, voice your desires – be open. This will remove the burden of dissatisfaction. Of course, it is necessary to establish domestic relations. Very often there are situations where the wife ceases to receive an orgasm from intimacy with her husband for the reason that they are constantly fighting, which accumulated resentment. It is easier for a man to put them off at the moment of intimacy, the woman does not. She lives with her emotions, internal dialogues that go on continuously, so resentment prevents her from relaxing.
And again we get a vicious circle: we keep silent about our desires in bed and get offended for dissatisfaction, we keep silent and hide our dissatisfaction with everyday life and get a lot of negativity accumulated from such trifles that are sometimes not worth a damn. And the wall of incomprehension has grown in all areas! Learn to conduct a dialogue with your partner in simple and accessible language. Not with an ultimative tone, but with compromise proposals.
How to get an orgasm, help from a man
Dear men, a woman’s orgasm depends on you at some points. We just wrote about trust and the ability to find a compromise in a respectful dialogue. We will not repeat it. Just take note that not only a woman has to yield and understand you for the reason that she is a woman. Slavery was abolished long ago, the central points of reference in a couple’s relationship shifted long ago. We have equal rights between people in everything.
If you want to rest after work, the woman has the same right to do so. She doesn’t have to plow the second shift at all. You want borscht and meatballs? Do it all together. Or bring in more money so the woman can work less. A hunted horse in the female form wants to sleep in the evening, what orgasms? And you suffer from it – lack of sex, rejection after rejection… Compromise, comrades, compromise!
Proper caresses
Learn to find bliss zones with each new partner. Do not act with all the girls according to one scheme. Although no man has ever hurt the ability to do quality cunnilingus as foreplay! In addition to increase to a maximum sexual arousal can stimulate not only the clitoris, but also other sensual areas on the body. For example, some of the fair sex are breasts and neck, others – earlobes and wrists.
G-spot stimulation and squirting orgasm
But there is a secret place in the female body, when acting on which the vaginal orgasm is guaranteed in almost 99% of cases – the G-spot. Another type of orgasm that you can learn to experience when stimulating this erogenous zone is called a squirting orgasm. It is possible only in some ladies, and represents a copious ejaculation of fluid from the urethra.
You can achieve squirt, which is what they call it, by stimulating the G-spot both with your hands and your penis, where the success and chances of a squirting orgasm largely predetermines the choice of position. The search for the most suitable position sometimes takes a long time. Couples should experiment and fantasize without stopping there. Look for your rhythm: slow and smooth, or rough and fast are all individual moments that are usually discussed as a couple.
Appropriate setting.
For a girl to have an orgasm, she needs the right environment. Dear men, keep this in mind! If she is scared at the slightest rustle during sex, afraid that someone will enter the room (children, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, etc.), it is foolish to count on a vivid orgasm in a movie theater or park. Such a woman will only cum in an intimate atmosphere where only she and her man are present. A woman who gets aroused by sharp swings of emotion, light affairs and sex in an unusual environment, on the contrary, will have an orgasm in more vivid non-standard conditions.
Sincere Feelings
Unfortunately, some women don’t know how to relax and have orgasms with men who only sleep with them for their health. Girls want feelings, emotions, at least their good half. If you’ve fallen for just such a one, but you don’t have love for her, which she knows, sex will be bland. Do not waste your and her time – she did not see orgasms, and you do not get to put another checkmark in the diary of victories. Bummer. Look for one that separates sex and feelings into two different components.
So, we’ve discussed how to get an orgasm, and what both partners need to do to do it. If all attempts are unsuccessful, you should definitely have a frank conversation. Only trust in the couple and discussion of all the intimate moments will help to do the “work on the mistakes”. Any girl can learn to have an orgasm, the main thing – to be able to listen to yourself and not embarrassed to talk about it with your partner.
Dear men and women, have you ever met a girl who didn’t have an orgasm? What did you do to solve the problem? Do you get an orgasm from every intercourse? In what ways? Write, comment and reveal your secrets!